Reclaim Your Sexuality Without Abandoning Your Values
From Stressed to Sensual in 60 Seconds
5 simple ways to connect
with your body, desires, and sexuality
(without feeling silly, slutty, or ashamed)
Working with Marilee was literally an honor. I had been having an incredibly hard time with my husband with some major disconnection. Marilee was masterful at guiding me through a process to witness myself and my husband and a beautiful visual came up to understand more. I could feel that Marilee was right there with me holding the space, and keeping the container so safe for me to go really deep. Her guidance is so intuitive and you can feel her heart right there with you. I highly recommend working with her.
– Amber K.
What if you stopped basing your sexuality on your partner’s preferences or what you learned in church when you were too young to know what “first base” even meant?
Get in touch with your authentic sexuality…a sexuality that aligns perfectly with your body, your desires, and your values.
Sounds exciting, right? Especially if you can relate to this…
Sitting in Sunday School, you shifted uncomfortably in your chair when your teacher displayed a piece of chewed up gum, asking each student if they wanted something that some else already used.
The message was clear…your purity = your worth.
Mention the word “sexuality” and you feel your cheeks turning red because sex has always been taboo and not something to be enjoyed by you.
Growing up, your sexuality was heavily shaped by your parents and church leaders. And once you got married, you felt pressured to adapt to the expectations of your husband or partner. Your sexuality has never felt like it was your own.
If we were having an honest conversation over a cup of hot chocolate, you could hear yourself admitting that you don’t know if you even like sex. You’ve felt a range of emotions about sex – frustration, defeat, sadness, numbness – and it feels like too much work. You don’t know what you want your sex life to look like…you just wish it were different.
Talking about sex has led to arguments, tears, frustration, and hurt. You wonder how you and your partner can both be unhappy when you’re trying your best. Yet, somehow, you’re still coming up short.
You feel like a failure in one of the most important areas of your relationship.
Your body doesn’t feel like it’s your own. You’re unsure what turns you on, what you like, and frankly sex feels like too much work with too little reward. Your sex life may be lackluster or nonexistent and you wonder if it’s worth trying to revive it.
You have a nagging concern that exploring your sexuality could send the wrong message to your husband or partner…that it might get twisted into something they want, and not what you ultimately want.
I hear you loud and clear…and you’re not alone 
This is what I know…
You can love your sexuality even more than your favorite Taylor Swift song
(even if you have more kids than you’ve had orgasms).
Your sexuality isn’t something to satisfy your partner.
Your sexuality is a unique part of YOU and it’s a place you can know yourself more deeply.
At it’s best, your sexuality includes your desires, your values, your pleasure, your voice, and your integrity….
and feels like a true reflection of you.
Hey there! I’m Marilee
(like in the song, Row, Row, Row Your Boat)
Authentic Sexuality and Body Connection Coach
for Women
Mom to two incredible kids, former dental hygienist, and your biggest cheerleader.
I’m fueled by quiet walks in the woods and Mexican food.
I help women stop having sex to satisfy their partner and, instead, to reclaim their authentic sexuality.
Want the “TMI Marilee!?!” info? Click the "+" for more about me. You’ll also get the raw details of how I came face-to-face with the fact that I was pretty clueless about my own desires, and realized I didn't know how to feel sexual without feeling guilty or dirty.
- The 10th of 11 kids from a wonderful family, I was taught that being a wife and mother were my most important roles, but just a few years into my marriage I felt like a disappointment to my husband.
Sex was one of the biggest friction points in our relationship, and I was terrified when my husband and I discussed separating after 15 years of marriage.
Even though I was in my 40s, I was pretty clueless about my own desires and preferences about sex. My sexuality had been built in response to my religion growing up, and once I was married, my sexuality had become a reflection of my husband’s desires. Of course the world had a lot of influence too…constantly reminding me of what my body “should” look like and how sexual I “should” be.
Here I was, hurt and confused, and wondering what my sexuality would reveal if I stopped basing it on rules or the desires of my partner and started finding the answers for myself.
That’s why I do this work…to help you find the answers for yourself. In those answers lies your freedom.
- My favorite, slightly naughty, joke…
What’s the difference between virgin olive oil and extra virgin olive oil?
Answer: Extra virgin didn’t even think about it! - Before I hit puberty or had my first chastity interview, I’d already been molested.
I took the lessons about chastity and modesty to heart and felt broken and dirty, with shame as my constant shadow. - Growing up, I dreamed of being a lawyer, but at the age of 11 my dad told me that it wasn’t a good job for a mom…and I believed him.
Now I believe the best job is doing something that you love – whether you’re a mom, a dad, or don’t have children.
P.S. My parents, like almost all parents, did their best and are wonderful ❤️ - My husband of 19 years, Kent, and I divorced in 2024 and remain very good friends.
He was and is one of my biggest supporters in this work.
If I’d known what I know now, we could have avoided countless arguments and years of pain.
Each of us better understanding and better communicating about our sexuality allowed us to separate peacefully, respectfully, and lovingly. - I love to travel! Our family visited over 20 countries and I try to visit at least two countries a year.
Some of my favorite places…
Prague, Czech Republic,
KL, Malaysia, and
Hoi An, Vietnam - Inspired by my Dad (he was a dentist) I became a dental hygienist and have worked as a practice coach helping dentists double their profits while improving their work-life balance for over 15 years.
In 2022, I felt a calling beyond dentistry and became a certified coach with a focus on women, sexuality, and self-love.
Empowering women to free themselves of sexual shame and conditioning and reclaim their sexuality for themselves is my calling. - With over 500 hours of coaching and training on Women’s Empowerment and Relationship Transformation, I’m on track to complete the VITA Sex, Love, and Relationship coaching certification by the end of 2024.
I can help you…
Eradicate feelings of shame around sex and sexuality (deep breath – I got you)
Love your body – so you stop criticizing yourself or seeing your wants and needs as burdens (hear me loud and clear – you are not a burden)
Get to know yourself more deeply – because sexuality has a much bigger impact on your life than just how you feel in the bedroom (and you are so worth getting to know)
Thank you for all you’ve imparted to and guided me through thus far. I can’t believe the shifts in just a few sessions – it truly is life changing and transformative. Your coaching has already helped me so much to move forward from trauma and being stuck.
– Linda P.
Are YOU READY TO…
You’re most likely to have success partnering with me if….
You crave a safe place to form your own opinions and voice your true desires
Book clubs and lunch with your girlfriends are great, but not the place to share your most personal struggles and the continual conflict you feel inside.
In a very noisy world, it can be hard to hear your own voice and know what’s true for you.
This is that space where your voice takes center stage and your desires are planted and nurtured.
You’re tired of being disconnected from your body and your sexuality
Maybe you enjoy hot and steamy novels but are confused as to what turns you on in real life.
Despite loving your husband/partner, sex feels like an obligation and you’re worried that it’s never going to get better.
Trying to add ‘turn on’ to shame or trauma is like trying to mix oil and water – it doesn’t work no matter how much effort you put into it. When you recognize and release shame and conditioning, you’re able to tune into your deepest desires and experience true turn on.
You genuinely want to know, love, and understand yourself
You’ve tried pushing your body and “forcing” yourself to get into the mood. It hasn’t worked and you sincerely hope there’s a better way.
Good news – there is.
You’ll learn how to approach your body with compassion – something that’s been missing for way too long. And it’s a win-win because this is also the fastest path to transformation.
Pure
/pyoor/ adjective
Definition: Without outside influence or contamination
You deserve a sexuality and an identity that’s all your own – free of the influence of harmful teachings, religious stigma, media, and all the places you were told (never asked) who you were and were not sexually.
Quiz Time…Who’s the expert when it comes to your sexuality?
(Hint: it’s not an organization or a person with a penis)
Answer…You. You! And only YOU!❤️
That’s why I created the Shame Free Sexuality Method
“Re-examine all you have been told in school or church or in any book, and dismiss whatever insults your own soul.”
– Walt Whitman
ready to discover your Sexuality?
- An identity and sexuality that accurately reflects you – your beliefs, desires, values, commitments, and growth
- A sexuality you create, cultivate, and control
- A sexuality that is free of shame, stigma, and unhealthy conditioning
- A sexuality that allows for forgiveness, healing, and accepting all parts of yourself
- A sexuality that is purely yours.
The shame free sexuality Vision
We live in a world where men, media, medicine, and government judge and control women’s sexuality (not wanting to be left out, we as women judge ourselves and other women too – often the most harshly).
My vision…A world where your sexuality is cultivated, evolves, and is owned by YOU.
A world where sexuality matures and reflects your identity.
A world where sexuality is not a gift a woman offers on her wedding night – but a blessing to herself and a power that fuels her entire life.
Sexuality is also a key to reclaiming your identity – your desires, your interests, your passions, and purpose.
Sexuality’s effects go far and wide beyond the bedroom…
How you see your sexuality influences how you care for yourself, how you see yourself, what you feel you’re worthy of.
It impacts what you ask for, what you create, and what you attract.
Connecting with your sexuality provides an opportunity to see who you really are, and that’s a beautiful place to start.
Intrigued?
Let’s continue the conversation…
5 Ways to Get in Touch with Your Body
(Don’t worry – you can keep your clothes on!)
Can I tell you a secret? Your body is always communicating with you. In fact, as women we communicate best through our bodies as our intuition, emotions, and desires are held powerfully in our bodies.
When we are disconnected, we can push ourselves to do things (whether that’s another load of laundry or having sex) even when your body is saying, “no”.
Your body is not the problem – in fact, it holds so many answers.
Discover five, fast ways to tune into your body and understand what it has to say.…three of them you can do while in line at Target without anyone being the wiser 😉
